Not Even Close
February 16, 2023 | View PDF
I want to express my anguish and clear my thoughts. I was hit by the infamous arrow of my dearest friend and enemy, Cupid. No wonder the song "Stupid Cupid" was created. We all need someone to blame for the heartache and the pain.
I met a wonderful guy. We had an almost freakish link from the first time we met, and meeting him was the last thing I planned. I enjoy my solitude so much that I had no intention of getting involved. It wasn't love at first sight, but his benevolence, understanding, and humor were overwhelming.
We were engulfed in this cloud. I mean, I've been infatuated with other guys before, but this is the first time I've actually felt the deeper pain of not being able to express it.
Your knees shake, you feel weak, and you hear your breathing and the rhythmical beat of your heart. You make sure he doesn't notice.
What could have been so wonderful isn't because of one reason, age difference. I guess when I prayed hard to meet a great guy, I should have been specific with the age range. How can I pretend to be mean and cruel, when I can see that what I felt for him is innocent and true?
I'm going to college this fall. I've been bombarded with different opinions and looks of disapproval. Everyone's staring and having appalling thoughts about me because of the age factor. The comment that plainly got stuck in my head was, "he's too old for you!"
The closeness we shared started to come apart. I ignored him. With my young heart being broken apart, I let go of love. What if he's the one, or is this just going to be one of those experiences a person must go through to be tough and gain wisdom?
Callie, when Tamara was in school, she took an accounting course with a girl named Lynn. For almost half a semester, Lynn didn't get it, and Tamara encouraged her not to give up. One day in class, Lynn heard the right words with the right example from the teacher. Something clicked.
The teacher asked a question, and Lynn raised her hand. When the teacher called on her, Lynn blurted out her first correct answer. The teacher smiled broadly and said, "You've got it, don't you?" Lynn replied, "Yes, finally." Once Lynn got it, she really got it. For the rest of the semester, each of her papers was perfect.
There is such a thing as being too much in love with love. You realize this man is too old for you, so old you won't even tell us his age. Now is the time to live life, not apply a "love test" to every male who crosses your path. When you really get it, your head and your heart will know you've found the correct answer.
My husband and I have been married for four years. His mother recently passed away, and he is the beneficiary. She had very nice personal items. Every time we go to her house to sort through things, he says, "You can have anything." But when we get ready to leave, he always says, "We'll get them later."
Last night, I received a call from my son's wife. She'd been invited by my husband to come over and pick from among his mother's clothes, makeup, and purses. I am not stingy, but I am his wife. Why wasn't I allowed to pick first? Now I am to the point I do not want anything.
Edna, let it go. Release your husband from his promise. Imagine he has the best possible reason to renege on his offer. I think he does. He doesn't want these reminders of his mother in your home, and his mind balks at putting you in his mother's clothing.
Wayne & Tamara are also the authors of “Cheating in a Nutshell, What Infidelity Does to the Victim”, available from Amazon, Apple, and most booksellers.